Anger, commonly defined as one of the most under-rated emotions of a human being, is not at all a bad emotion. It is perfectly normal to be angry. If you don’t ever get angry, then there is seriously a problem!
But anger becomes a problem when it exceeds the limits where you have no control over your senses and are too much aggressive that you lose your thinking capability for a while and go on saying and doing whatever you feel like.
Are you the one who is constantly a victim of this?
Does it harms your relationships, your health and disturbs your mind?
Don’t worry! We are going to help you right now. It’s much easier to control than you think. But the first thing is that you should realise that there is a difference between controlling it and crushing it. And you should control it.
Before we move on, let us look at the answer to a question.
Why are Some People Angrier than Others:
One of the reasons is because of genetic or physiological reasons. They are born irritable and get angry easily.
Other is the culture effect. Many of us are told to express other emotions like depression, sadness etc. but not anger. Hence, we fail how to use it constructively or control it.
Also, some kids develop this habit because of family background. There is a constant disturbance in such families and everyone is affected by that.
How to Control and Channel Your Anger Constructively:
What you are really angry about?
Ask yourself this question. Many times we fight over petty issues that grow up to big ones. But take a look back and you will realise that you have wasted your time getting angry on something that was not at all important.
Make Relationship Your Priority
If you have hurt just because you said something that day out of anger then probably it is very difficult to get back the original level of relationship back. One moment can break your years of relationship into pieces of ash! You must keep your mind open. It is often said that an angry man opens his mouth and shuts his mind. Don’t let this happen to you.
Use Your Anger in Right Direction
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To cool down quickly when angry, take deep breathes slowly and use your abdomen to breathe. It would certainly help in calming you down. And repeatedly say the words like “relax”, “cool down”, “easy boy” etc. This is because they help you to give the message to your mind that the situation is still entirely under control.
Take it the other way
You should think of anger in different terms. It reminds of us the beautiful lines by Ralph Waldo Emerson- “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” And as far as we know, there is hardly anyone who wants to lose happiness. Be happy, be nice. The anger inside yourself will hurt you more than others. At the end, you should change your mindset and perception about anger.
Focus on solution rather than problems
Instead of wasting your time and energy on pointing out and exaggerating the problem, focus on the solution for it. Don’t let your emotions overpower your intelligence while you are angry.
Never hold any grudge against someone. Only the weak ones live with grudges; the strong ones forgive and move on. If you hold grudges, then there are chances that you may once become angry. If anyone can make you angry, then that means that they are controlling you and not you yourself. “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.”
“Make your anger so expensive that no one can easily afford it and make your happiness that so cheap, that everyone who buys it for free feels happy too.”
Whenever angry think of the consequences that may arise because of your instant reactions to the situation and relationship. Hence, enjoy the life rather than regretting or getting angry over the past experiences or the present situations. You have far more important things to do than to get angry over petty issues 🙂