Is it sex or love making? 

Sex is in the media nearly everywhere we look and clearly, we are all interested in it to some degree or another. But what exactly is the secret to ‘great sex’? And when does sex become “making love”? Is there a difference between sex and making love? And if so, what is it?

  1. Sex is well – sexy, and can be fast, hard but also slower, and is often objectifying.
  2. Making love is slower and gentle, only happens between two people that are in love, have mutual respect, and consider the feelings and pleasure of the sexual partner.

The first does not require you to love or even like the person you are having sex with – it is more about your ‘getting off’ rather than pleasing your sexual partner.

Is it possible that the difference between sex and making love is that sex finishes once the physical act is over, whereas lovemaking continues to be an expression that can be carried over into many (or all) interactions between a loving couple?

You can have sex without making love so can you simply make love without having sex?

Such as …

  • Making your lover a cup of tea
  • Brushing up against them in the kitchen when cooking together
  • Stealing a passionate kiss
  • Sharing a look across the dinner table
  • Going for a walk together for the joy of it

Are these all not forms of building love, or perhaps even making love? Is it possible that the making love in the sexual sense is merely another expression and confirmation of the true love shared between committed adults when born from a foundation of ‘lovemaking’ in everyday life?

If foreplay is attributed to potentially enhancing sex, is it possible that loving expressions towards your partner are like divine foreplay, forever building towards amazing lovemaking sessions? That sounds dangerously orgasmic and maybe idealistic, but surely worth some further investigation?


Making love is an extension of how you are living with yourself and how that equal union is lived with your partner. Therefore, making love is always an act that confirms the love you already have as opposed to having sex which in truth is an act that seeks love. 

Nada Yoga: Hearing the Cosmic Vibrations 

​Nada yoga is an ancient Indian metaphysical system. It is equally a philosophical system, a medicine, and a form of yoga. The system’s theoretical and practical aspects are based on the premise that the entire cosmos and all that exists in the cosmos, including human beings, consists of sound vibrations, called nada. This concept holds that it is the sound energy in motion rather than of matter and particles which form the building blocks of the cosmos.

Nada yoga is also a reverential way to approach and respond to sound. In this context, sound [and] music carry a spiritual weight more meaningful, respectively, than what sensory properties normally provide. Sound and music are considered to play a potential medium/intermediary role to achieve a deeper unity with both the outer and inner cosmos.

The Nada yoga system divides music into two categories: internal music, anahata, and external music, ahata. While the external music is conveyed to consciousness via sensory organs in the form of the ears, in which mechanical energy is converted to electrochemical energy and then transformed in the brain to sensations of sound, it is the anahata chakra, which is considered responsible for the reception of the internal music, but not in the way of a normal sensory organ.
The anahata concept refers to one’s own personal sound vibrations, which are thought to be so closely associated with one’s self and the Self that a person can not share their anahata with another human being. 
In other words, this inner sound is sacred and once reached will open the practitioner’s chakras, which ultimately will unite the body to the divine/cosmos.
With continued sounds, a focused mind and controlled breath, the individual can, according to nada yoga, “listen in on” their own anahata, their own “inner sound”, which can take up to nine different forms. Such a process of inner awareness and sensitivity leads to increased self-recollectedness and finally to awakening.

To concentrate on this inner sound as a support for meditation is very helpful to tame the mind, and when it has been clearly recognized, used for self-recollectedness in outer life as well. Eventually, it can be experienced as penetrating all matter and indeed vibrates eternally throughout the Creation.

Accessing Pure Intelligence on the Path of Gnana Yoga

In modern times, the human mind is increasingly seen as a source of torment rather than wonder. Unfortunately, a source of magic has turned into a mess, a miraculous instrument into a misery-manufacturing machine.

 

How did the mind become a circus? Given that gnana yoga – the path of “knowing” – is considered to be a time-honored path to the divine, what went wrong? Is the mind no longer capable of leading us to our ultimate destination?

All human beings are capable of becoming the sole architects of their inner lives, if they knew how to use the mind. The problem is just that their mind is not taking instructions from them. Imagine a caveman punching a computer keyboard: the result would look like a series of obscenities! That sums up the way most people use their minds.

The Essence of Intellect

A gnana yogi begins by using his intellect, but soon realizes the limitations of this faculty. The function of the intellect is essentially to recycle data gathered from the outside world via the sense organs. In short, the intellect is pure information technology. It is a wonderful instrument, and absolutely vital for our survival. It has contributed immeasurably towards human culture and civilization.

However, the problem today is that the intellect has assumed a disproportionately important role. The essence of the intellect is to divide. So humanity has embarked on a journey of wholesale dissection. We have split everything, including the invisible atom.

 

We have forgotten that human logic is necessarily limited because it is based on fragmentary and inaccurate information from our sense organs. It is said that when the first European ships went to North America, the native tribes could see people coming towards them, but they could not see the ship. This was simply because they had never seen a ship before. Whether this story is true or apocryphal, it is a fact that if there is no past information about an object in your mind, you cannot even perceive it. It is not religion that tells us this, but modern neuroscience.

Approaching the Infinite

The gnana yogi begins to realize that when it comes to the mystical dimension, the intellect is of no consequence. He sees that however great the volume, the data gathered by the intellect will always remain finite. It is impossible to approach the infinite through the finite. And so, the gnana yogi learns to use the intellect the way a drunkard uses a lamp post – for support rather than illumination. He does not seek a PhD to validate the knowledge he has amassed. Instead, he understands that the intellect is an instrument of analysis, not perception. To perceive, another faculty is required.

 

At the same time, probably nowhere else in the world has the intellect been used with the devastating precision as it has in India. The Indian subcontinent has seen metaphysical logic at its ultimate. The sophisticated levels of Vedantin philosophizing can leave you dizzy and intoxicated. But gradually, true sadhakas realize all the heady excitement isn’t really getting them anywhere.

Pure Intelligence

Gradually, those on the gnana yoga path learn to access the deepest dimension of human intelligence, which connects them with the very basis of creation. This realm is known as chitta. They realize that if you soak your intellect in chitta – consciousness unsullied by memory – it can grow razor-sharp, turn into a miraculous tool of bliss and liberation, and deliver you effortlessly to the ultimate.
If you look at your body, you realize what an incredibly complex chemical factory it is. There is undeniably a profound intelligence managing this great chemical dance. But do you think you will ever be able to conduct this chemical dance intellectually? You cannot manage a single cell in your body that way!

 

The phenomenal dance of chemistry and neurons within the human system is conducted by none other than chitta or pure intelligence. And this pure intelligence is not different from what we refer to as God or the Creator. If you operate out of the straitjacket of logic, you just remain a clown in the circus of life. But when you operate from the unbounded dimension of chitta, you become a blissful participant in the life process. The mind is no more a circus. Now, life is nothing short of a dance – a superbly choreographed dance between you and the entire cosmos.

Anger Management: Effective Ways

Anger Management: 7 Effective Ways to Manage Anger

Anger, commonly defined as one of the most under-rated emotions of a human being, is not at all a bad emotion. It is perfectly normal to be angry. If you don’t ever get angry, then there is seriously a problem!

But anger becomes a problem when it exceeds the limits where you have no control over your senses and are too much aggressive that you lose your thinking capability for a while and go on saying and doing whatever you feel like.

Are you the one who is constantly a victim of this?

Does it harms your relationships, your health and disturbs your mind?

Don’t worry! We are going to help you right now. It’s much easier to control than you think. But the first thing is that you should realise that there is a difference between controlling it and crushing it. And you should control it.

Before we move on, let us look at the answer to a question.

Why are Some People Angrier than Others:

Why Some People Are More Angry than Others

One of the reasons is because of genetic or physiological reasons. They are born irritable and get angry easily.

Other is the culture effect. Many of us are told to express other emotions like depression, sadness etc. but not anger. Hence, we fail how to use it constructively or control it.

Also, some kids develop this habit because of family background. There is a constant disturbance in such families and everyone is affected by that.

How to Control and Channel Your Anger Constructively:

What you are really angry about?

 

What are you angry about: Anger Management

Ask yourself this question. Many times we fight over petty issues that grow up to big ones. But take a look back and you will realise that you have wasted your time getting angry on something that was not at all important.

 

Make Relationship Your Priority

Relationship First: Anger Management

If you have hurt just because you said something that day out of anger then probably it is very difficult to get back the original level of relationship back. One moment can break your years of relationship into pieces of ash! You must keep your mind open. It is often said that an angry man opens his mouth and shuts his mind. Don’t let this happen to you.

 

Use Your Anger in Right Direction

Use Your Anger in Right Direction

The image says it all. Nothing left to explain! 😉

 

Relax

Relax for Anger Management

To cool down quickly when angry, take deep breathes slowly and use your abdomen to breathe. It would certainly help in calming you down. And repeatedly say the words like “relax”, “cool down”, “easy boy” etc. This is because they help you to give the message to your mind that the situation is still entirely under control.

 

Take it the other way

Think it the other way: Anger Management

You should think of anger in different terms. It reminds of us the beautiful lines by Ralph Waldo Emerson- “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” And as far as we know, there is hardly anyone who wants to lose happiness. Be happy, be nice. The anger inside yourself will hurt you more than others. At the end, you should change your mindset and perception about anger.

 

Focus on solution rather than problems

Focus on Solutions NOT Problems: Anger Management

Instead of wasting your time and energy on pointing out and exaggerating the problem, focus on the solution for it. Don’t let your emotions overpower your intelligence while you are angry.

 

Forgive

Forgive: Anger Management

Never hold any grudge against someone. Only the weak ones live with grudges; the strong ones forgive and move on. If you hold grudges, then there are chances that you may once become angry. If anyone can make you angry, then that means that they are controlling you and not you yourself. “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.”

 

Conclusion

“Make your anger so expensive that no one can easily afford it and make your happiness that so cheap, that everyone who buys it for free feels happy too.”

Anger Management: Conclusion

Whenever angry think of the consequences that may arise because of your instant reactions to the situation and relationship. Hence, enjoy the life rather than regretting or getting angry over the past experiences or the present situations. You have far more important things to do than to get angry over petty issues 🙂

Benefits of Meditation 

​What is meditation? 


Meditation is relaxation. It is not about concentration, it’s actually about de-concentration. It’s not about focussing one’s thoughts on one thing, but instead on becoming thoughtless.

What are the benefits of meditation?

1. A calm mind

2. Good concentration 

3. Better Clarity 

4. Improved communication

5. Relaxation and rejuvenation of the mind and body

5 Health benefits of meditation

With meditation, the physiology undergoes a change and every cell in the body is filled with more prana (energy). This results in joy, peace, enthusiasm as the level of prana in the body increases.

On a physical level, meditation:

1. Lowers high blood pressure, lowers the levels of blood lactate, reducing anxiety attacks

2. Decreases any tension-related pain, such as, tension headaches, ulcers, insomnia, muscle and joint problems

3. Increases serotonin production that improves mood and behavior

4. Improves the immune system

5. Increases the energy level, as you gain an inner source of energy.

8 Mental Benefits of Meditation



Meditation brings the brainwave pattern into an alpha state that promotes healing. The mind becomes fresh, delicate and beautiful. It cleanses and nourishes you from within and calms you, whenever you feel overwhelmed, unstable, or emotionally shut down. With regular practice of meditation:

1. Anxiety decreases

2. Emotional stability improves

3. Creativity increases

4. Happiness increases

5. Intuition develops

6. Gain clarity and peace of mind 

7. Problems become smaller

8. Meditation sharpens the mind by gaining focus and expands through relaxation

Meditation makes you aware – that your inner attitude determines your happiness.

3 Spiritual benefits of meditation

Meditation doesn’t have a religion and can be practiced by anybody regardless of the faith they follow.

1. Effortless transition from being something to merging with the infinite and recognizing yourself as an inseparable part of the whole cosmos.

2. In a meditative state, you are in a space of vastness, calmness and joy and this is what you emit into the environment, bringing harmony to the Creation/planet.

3. Meditation can bring about a true personal transformation. As you learn more about yourself, you’ll naturally start discovering more about yourself.

Overcome Depression

5 Most Effective Ways to Combat Depression and Anxiety

Way back in our previous article on depression, we looked at some of the signs and symptoms to identify if someone is a victim or not. Today, let us just perish our anxieties and stresses into ashes.

 

Ready?

 

Take a closer look at your mind

Overcome Depression: Look Into Your Mind

The most important thing is that you should realise is that depression is nothing more than a mind game!

Understand, reason and challenge! Try to figure out if you are really in depression. Most of the times just because of an incident of our life, we make our mind believe that we are in stress.

And mind you, our subconscious mind is not consciously intelligent. It takes as it is what you supply to it. So, if you believe that you are in depression, then you ARE in depression. And if you refuse your mind that you are not, then you ARE NOT!

You should challenge your mind. And the moment you dare to challenge your mind, challenge your soul and challenge yourself, and then you already have developed the confidence back again to face any anxiety or fear. You have created the power and refused to settle because of your problems. If you can challenge yourself then you can challenge anyone and any problem!

And honestly speaking, if you have got this now then there is absolutely no need to read anything further.

 

Be Ambitious, set achievable goals and conquer them:

Overcome Depression: Set Goals

Depression can make you feel that you cannot accomplish anything. This can leave you even sadder. You need to bounce back at your life in order to feel confident. The level of confidence that you develop after achieving a feat would make you happier. The feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction by achieving your goals cannot be matched by any other source.

 

Get adequate sleep

Overcome Depression: Get Adequate Sleep

Too much or too less sleep is dangerous to health. It can also lead to depression. Your normal body functioning changes and your muscles may not get enough rest to cope up with the next day activities. Prevention is always better than cure. Try to sleep at least 6 hours and at max 9 hours.

 

Daily fitness regime

Overcome Depression: Set Fitness Regime

Get off the couch! Say NO to it. You should make it a habit of engaging in some sort of physical exercises everyday. Even if you don’t find time for exercises, then at least do some walking. Something is better than nothing. It boosts the release of endorphins in the body that make you feel good. You will begin to see a level of new confidence once you regularly engage in exercises.

 

Get Social: Stay engaged with loved your ones

Overcome Depression: Get Social

A common thing in depression is that a person wants to stay away from others and live in solitude. This is exactly which you should not be doing. This would fill your mind with unwanted talks and you will lose your confidence faster! You will begin to lose hope from the world, the humanity.

The best thing is that you should seek to engage with your loved ones. Your loved ones are the ones that care about you. They can understand you more easily and can help you feel better. This would make you feel elated and more confident.

However, getting social doesn’t mean that you should spend time on social media. You should meet in person. No social media can replace the real person-to-person meeting.

 

Final Word

We hope that you have learnt something about how to combat depression and anxiety. There is nothing further on this except a small request:

Don’t just read these points, implement them as well. You will surely begin to notice changes. And if any other individual is in depression, do suggest them the above points.

Let us all be united to fight depression. United we stand, divided we fall.

Exploring Subconscious Mind

Exploring Your Subconscious Mind [Part 3]

You should be careful of our thought process and the messages that you convey to your subconscious mind. It is YOU and YOUR THOUGHTS that create your own misery or happiness through the messages you send to your subconscious mind. Your own thoughts define you.

“Whatever the mind of a man can conceive and believe, the mind of a man can achieve.”-Napoleon Hill.

Whatever you see, do, feel, think or believe; all are sent to your subconscious mind. All of us have heard that in our whole lifetime we use only 10% of our brain! What if we increase this?

We use only 10% of our brain

That is where your subconscious mind will come into the picture and would make you a person that you want to be. It would create what you feed into it. And the only thing to learn is how to use your subconscious mind to make it do anything for you. If you lack this ability to utilise your subconscious mind then you would end up spending up the whole of your life with the same desires and yearnings embedded in your heart that would never be fulfilled.

You can’t control your negative thoughts. What you can control is your reaction to them. If you are affirmative in your thoughts and don’t let negativity discourage you, then your subconscious mind would help you in ways that you can’t possibly imagine!

Now, the much-awaited question: How exactly to make your subconscious work for you?

First of all, define exactly what you intend to desire.

Say, you should not say that you want a lot of money. That’s absolute rubbish. Fix a defined quantity of bucks that you intend to earn before a particular deadline set by you (However, remember that your goals should be realistic and that sky is the limit).

Now that you have defined your desires, have that faith in you that you will achieve your desires. The subconscious works when repetitive verbal statements are given to it and repetitive thought are polished. Hence, say out aloud twice each and every single day that “I, [your full name], will achieve [your desire] before [your defined deadline].” Never ever doubt what you are saying and stay positive. Feel and believe that you have already possessed your desire and live by that belief.

And leave the rest of the things to your subconscious mind. As a result, it will give you the best idea suited to achieve your desire and would enable you to lay a well-defined path to achieve it. This power of subconscious mind is also called imagination!

And the rest is history! Yes, it’s that simple!

(This may seem simple by reading but let us see if it still seem simple if you pay a little more attention to the bolded words of this articles. Period)

 

 

Subconscious Mind: The Infinite Space

Exploring Your Subconscious Mind [Part 2]

Susceptible are the memories that are given by your conscious mind whereas the perfect ones, even what happened 60 years ago with you, are revised and revealed by your subconscious to you. It consists of an infinite space and memory that can store every single incident of your life and can be retrieved by some external stimulus or hypnosis! This at any cost can’t be achieved by your conscious mind.

Our subconscious mind is always awake till our death. It doesn’t rest for a single while.

It is affected by verbal and visual repetition. “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.” What your mind believes and it’s repeatedly thought of it, it tends to give that a conscious effort after a particular time and it certainly becomes a reality (if backed by faith and imagination)! No real success has ever been achieved by the lack of faith and vision of the imagination.

REAL LIFE EXAMPLES

Let me substantiate the aforementioned points by two real life phenomenon:

Nowadays, we all encounter many advertisements here and there on the internet, TV’s, newspapers etc. and that too the same repeated ones by the companies out there. Making the public more aware of their product is a different part that they are interested in. More importantly, they want the customers to see it again and again so that by the visual and verbal repetitions, the product would get implanted in the customer’s subconscious mind. Advertisements tend to be catchy and out of the box so as to catch the attention of the subconscious mind of the customers and hence create a space for their product in their subconscious. That’s the power of the subconscious mind which the smart businessmen are using!

Subconscious Mind: Activated via Advertisements

The subconscious mind also sets up a comfort zone for you in many situations. Take for example the case of the effect of music on your subconscious mind. You may recall that when you go to a nice shop you would see that a calm and soothing music is being played. Researchers have shown that music has the power to affect a person’s mood via subconscious. The music a comfort zone for you and you end up spending more time in the shop because you don’t want to go out of your comfort zone and end up buying more things that eventually increases sales of the owner!

Subconscious Mind: Activated via Music

Hence, a realisation is the key that will curb off the negative thinking from your mind. Once you realise the power of your subconscious mind (I hope by now you have), you will stop negative thinking because somehow or the other, the ideas of security, fear and failure would develop into your subconscious mind and we can’t afford to do that repeatedly if we really want success. Mark my words as I say, “A fearful mind can never achieve outstanding feats.”

So, I hope that by far you would have realised that subconscious mind is a mind of wisdom. 95% decisions are made subconsciously by us. The conscious one may give at times foolish ideas but the more powerful subconscious one would bring out ideas from nowhere and that too very exciting and useful ones. Often, the sound of soul, as we say, refers to the subconscious decisions. The will power and creativity is controlled by the subconscious mind.

Change your thinking, change your mind, and change your life! The choice is yours to choose the right path. May the best decision be taken subconsciously 🙂

Exploring Subconscious Mind

Exploring Your Subconscious Mind [Part-1]

Ages have been spent in understanding our mind. Certain theories and explanation have been drafted to comment upon the working of this mysterious organ. Here, we have started a series to explore, understand and how to use your subconscious mind in your everyday life. This one mainly deals with an introductory part.
Our brain is believed to be functioned of by three different minds: conscious, subconscious and unconscious.

Conscious Mind

It is the present mind, the mind that makes you aware of the present moment. The voluntary action that you take by analytical thinking is governed by the subconscious mind.

Subconscious Mind

It is the pool of information that is embedded in your mind by repeated encounters or due to a mysterious and unusual appearance of anything. Your mind senses it and stores it and retrieves it whenever necessary by a certain amount of trigger. For example, you remember the frequently used contacts, the path to your home, a distinct childhood memory, déjà vu etc.
“Your subconscious mind is 30000 times more powerful than your conscious mind.”
We would be discussing its power in the coming articles!

Unconscious Mind

It consists of your past memories that are somewhere in your mind deep inside and is very difficult to access. Your behaviour may reflect the childhood memories and experiences that are developed over a period of time but you know only the vague expression of the memory and you would require a very strong trigger to recall those memories.

various minds and explanation
The diagram shows the model of human mind

It would be all for today. We would discuss the power of your subconscious mind and how it helps you achieve what you want in coming articles.