Is it sex or love making? 

Sex is in the media nearly everywhere we look and clearly, we are all interested in it to some degree or another. But what exactly is the secret to ‘great sex’? And when does sex become “making love”? Is there a difference between sex and making love? And if so, what is it?

  1. Sex is well – sexy, and can be fast, hard but also slower, and is often objectifying.
  2. Making love is slower and gentle, only happens between two people that are in love, have mutual respect, and consider the feelings and pleasure of the sexual partner.

The first does not require you to love or even like the person you are having sex with – it is more about your ‘getting off’ rather than pleasing your sexual partner.

Is it possible that the difference between sex and making love is that sex finishes once the physical act is over, whereas lovemaking continues to be an expression that can be carried over into many (or all) interactions between a loving couple?

You can have sex without making love so can you simply make love without having sex?

Such as …

  • Making your lover a cup of tea
  • Brushing up against them in the kitchen when cooking together
  • Stealing a passionate kiss
  • Sharing a look across the dinner table
  • Going for a walk together for the joy of it

Are these all not forms of building love, or perhaps even making love? Is it possible that the making love in the sexual sense is merely another expression and confirmation of the true love shared between committed adults when born from a foundation of ‘lovemaking’ in everyday life?

If foreplay is attributed to potentially enhancing sex, is it possible that loving expressions towards your partner are like divine foreplay, forever building towards amazing lovemaking sessions? That sounds dangerously orgasmic and maybe idealistic, but surely worth some further investigation?


Making love is an extension of how you are living with yourself and how that equal union is lived with your partner. Therefore, making love is always an act that confirms the love you already have as opposed to having sex which in truth is an act that seeks love. 

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Nada Yoga: Hearing the Cosmic Vibrations 

​Nada yoga is an ancient Indian metaphysical system. It is equally a philosophical system, a medicine, and a form of yoga. The system’s theoretical and practical aspects are based on the premise that the entire cosmos and all that exists in the cosmos, including human beings, consists of sound vibrations, called nada. This concept holds that it is the sound energy in motion rather than of matter and particles which form the building blocks of the cosmos.

Nada yoga is also a reverential way to approach and respond to sound. In this context, sound [and] music carry a spiritual weight more meaningful, respectively, than what sensory properties normally provide. Sound and music are considered to play a potential medium/intermediary role to achieve a deeper unity with both the outer and inner cosmos.

The Nada yoga system divides music into two categories: internal music, anahata, and external music, ahata. While the external music is conveyed to consciousness via sensory organs in the form of the ears, in which mechanical energy is converted to electrochemical energy and then transformed in the brain to sensations of sound, it is the anahata chakra, which is considered responsible for the reception of the internal music, but not in the way of a normal sensory organ.
The anahata concept refers to one’s own personal sound vibrations, which are thought to be so closely associated with one’s self and the Self that a person can not share their anahata with another human being. 
In other words, this inner sound is sacred and once reached will open the practitioner’s chakras, which ultimately will unite the body to the divine/cosmos.
With continued sounds, a focused mind and controlled breath, the individual can, according to nada yoga, “listen in on” their own anahata, their own “inner sound”, which can take up to nine different forms. Such a process of inner awareness and sensitivity leads to increased self-recollectedness and finally to awakening.

To concentrate on this inner sound as a support for meditation is very helpful to tame the mind, and when it has been clearly recognized, used for self-recollectedness in outer life as well. Eventually, it can be experienced as penetrating all matter and indeed vibrates eternally throughout the Creation.

Accessing Pure Intelligence on the Path of Gnana Yoga

In modern times, the human mind is increasingly seen as a source of torment rather than wonder. Unfortunately, a source of magic has turned into a mess, a miraculous instrument into a misery-manufacturing machine.

 

How did the mind become a circus? Given that gnana yoga – the path of “knowing” – is considered to be a time-honored path to the divine, what went wrong? Is the mind no longer capable of leading us to our ultimate destination?

All human beings are capable of becoming the sole architects of their inner lives, if they knew how to use the mind. The problem is just that their mind is not taking instructions from them. Imagine a caveman punching a computer keyboard: the result would look like a series of obscenities! That sums up the way most people use their minds.

The Essence of Intellect

A gnana yogi begins by using his intellect, but soon realizes the limitations of this faculty. The function of the intellect is essentially to recycle data gathered from the outside world via the sense organs. In short, the intellect is pure information technology. It is a wonderful instrument, and absolutely vital for our survival. It has contributed immeasurably towards human culture and civilization.

However, the problem today is that the intellect has assumed a disproportionately important role. The essence of the intellect is to divide. So humanity has embarked on a journey of wholesale dissection. We have split everything, including the invisible atom.

 

We have forgotten that human logic is necessarily limited because it is based on fragmentary and inaccurate information from our sense organs. It is said that when the first European ships went to North America, the native tribes could see people coming towards them, but they could not see the ship. This was simply because they had never seen a ship before. Whether this story is true or apocryphal, it is a fact that if there is no past information about an object in your mind, you cannot even perceive it. It is not religion that tells us this, but modern neuroscience.

Approaching the Infinite

The gnana yogi begins to realize that when it comes to the mystical dimension, the intellect is of no consequence. He sees that however great the volume, the data gathered by the intellect will always remain finite. It is impossible to approach the infinite through the finite. And so, the gnana yogi learns to use the intellect the way a drunkard uses a lamp post – for support rather than illumination. He does not seek a PhD to validate the knowledge he has amassed. Instead, he understands that the intellect is an instrument of analysis, not perception. To perceive, another faculty is required.

 

At the same time, probably nowhere else in the world has the intellect been used with the devastating precision as it has in India. The Indian subcontinent has seen metaphysical logic at its ultimate. The sophisticated levels of Vedantin philosophizing can leave you dizzy and intoxicated. But gradually, true sadhakas realize all the heady excitement isn’t really getting them anywhere.

Pure Intelligence

Gradually, those on the gnana yoga path learn to access the deepest dimension of human intelligence, which connects them with the very basis of creation. This realm is known as chitta. They realize that if you soak your intellect in chitta – consciousness unsullied by memory – it can grow razor-sharp, turn into a miraculous tool of bliss and liberation, and deliver you effortlessly to the ultimate.
If you look at your body, you realize what an incredibly complex chemical factory it is. There is undeniably a profound intelligence managing this great chemical dance. But do you think you will ever be able to conduct this chemical dance intellectually? You cannot manage a single cell in your body that way!

 

The phenomenal dance of chemistry and neurons within the human system is conducted by none other than chitta or pure intelligence. And this pure intelligence is not different from what we refer to as God or the Creator. If you operate out of the straitjacket of logic, you just remain a clown in the circus of life. But when you operate from the unbounded dimension of chitta, you become a blissful participant in the life process. The mind is no more a circus. Now, life is nothing short of a dance – a superbly choreographed dance between you and the entire cosmos.

Anger Management: Effective Ways

Anger Management: 7 Effective Ways to Manage Anger

Anger, commonly defined as one of the most under-rated emotions of a human being, is not at all a bad emotion. It is perfectly normal to be angry. If you don’t ever get angry, then there is seriously a problem!

But anger becomes a problem when it exceeds the limits where you have no control over your senses and are too much aggressive that you lose your thinking capability for a while and go on saying and doing whatever you feel like.

Are you the one who is constantly a victim of this?

Does it harms your relationships, your health and disturbs your mind?

Don’t worry! We are going to help you right now. It’s much easier to control than you think. But the first thing is that you should realise that there is a difference between controlling it and crushing it. And you should control it.

Before we move on, let us look at the answer to a question.

Why are Some People Angrier than Others:

Why Some People Are More Angry than Others

One of the reasons is because of genetic or physiological reasons. They are born irritable and get angry easily.

Other is the culture effect. Many of us are told to express other emotions like depression, sadness etc. but not anger. Hence, we fail how to use it constructively or control it.

Also, some kids develop this habit because of family background. There is a constant disturbance in such families and everyone is affected by that.

How to Control and Channel Your Anger Constructively:

What you are really angry about?

 

What are you angry about: Anger Management

Ask yourself this question. Many times we fight over petty issues that grow up to big ones. But take a look back and you will realise that you have wasted your time getting angry on something that was not at all important.

 

Make Relationship Your Priority

Relationship First: Anger Management

If you have hurt just because you said something that day out of anger then probably it is very difficult to get back the original level of relationship back. One moment can break your years of relationship into pieces of ash! You must keep your mind open. It is often said that an angry man opens his mouth and shuts his mind. Don’t let this happen to you.

 

Use Your Anger in Right Direction

Use Your Anger in Right Direction

The image says it all. Nothing left to explain! 😉

 

Relax

Relax for Anger Management

To cool down quickly when angry, take deep breathes slowly and use your abdomen to breathe. It would certainly help in calming you down. And repeatedly say the words like “relax”, “cool down”, “easy boy” etc. This is because they help you to give the message to your mind that the situation is still entirely under control.

 

Take it the other way

Think it the other way: Anger Management

You should think of anger in different terms. It reminds of us the beautiful lines by Ralph Waldo Emerson- “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” And as far as we know, there is hardly anyone who wants to lose happiness. Be happy, be nice. The anger inside yourself will hurt you more than others. At the end, you should change your mindset and perception about anger.

 

Focus on solution rather than problems

Focus on Solutions NOT Problems: Anger Management

Instead of wasting your time and energy on pointing out and exaggerating the problem, focus on the solution for it. Don’t let your emotions overpower your intelligence while you are angry.

 

Forgive

Forgive: Anger Management

Never hold any grudge against someone. Only the weak ones live with grudges; the strong ones forgive and move on. If you hold grudges, then there are chances that you may once become angry. If anyone can make you angry, then that means that they are controlling you and not you yourself. “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.”

 

Conclusion

“Make your anger so expensive that no one can easily afford it and make your happiness that so cheap, that everyone who buys it for free feels happy too.”

Anger Management: Conclusion

Whenever angry think of the consequences that may arise because of your instant reactions to the situation and relationship. Hence, enjoy the life rather than regretting or getting angry over the past experiences or the present situations. You have far more important things to do than to get angry over petty issues 🙂