Is it sex or love making? 

Sex is in the media nearly everywhere we look and clearly, we are all interested in it to some degree or another. But what exactly is the secret to ‘great sex’? And when does sex become “making love”? Is there a difference between sex and making love? And if so, what is it?

  1. Sex is well – sexy, and can be fast, hard but also slower, and is often objectifying.
  2. Making love is slower and gentle, only happens between two people that are in love, have mutual respect, and consider the feelings and pleasure of the sexual partner.

The first does not require you to love or even like the person you are having sex with – it is more about your ‘getting off’ rather than pleasing your sexual partner.

Is it possible that the difference between sex and making love is that sex finishes once the physical act is over, whereas lovemaking continues to be an expression that can be carried over into many (or all) interactions between a loving couple?

You can have sex without making love so can you simply make love without having sex?

Such as …

  • Making your lover a cup of tea
  • Brushing up against them in the kitchen when cooking together
  • Stealing a passionate kiss
  • Sharing a look across the dinner table
  • Going for a walk together for the joy of it

Are these all not forms of building love, or perhaps even making love? Is it possible that the making love in the sexual sense is merely another expression and confirmation of the true love shared between committed adults when born from a foundation of ‘lovemaking’ in everyday life?

If foreplay is attributed to potentially enhancing sex, is it possible that loving expressions towards your partner are like divine foreplay, forever building towards amazing lovemaking sessions? That sounds dangerously orgasmic and maybe idealistic, but surely worth some further investigation?

Making love is an extension of how you are living with yourself and how that equal union is lived with your partner. Therefore, making love is always an act that confirms the love you already have as opposed to having sex which in truth is an act that seeks love. 


9 Step Guide to Overcome Depression through Sex

​As pure cosmic energy, sex is a physical act that provides a direct connection to the divine. I think we’ve been going about it the wrong way for a very long time.

We’ve been expecting way too little of sex for a very long time. It’s a massively powerful energy. And it has more potential than we realize to be a force for the amazing in our lives.

If performed as a sacred gesture to the Divine, sex can transform those involved phenomenally and help them get out of depression, stress or anxiety. 


1. Recognize that we are spiritual beings having a human experience — that you were created from a divine blueprint.

2. Accept that if you are a divine expression of this force, your partner is too.
(Yes, that person who annoys you and challenges you to no end.) Expand your understanding and surrender all judgment of the person God has provided as your soul mate.

3. Decide to see your partner as divine.
Embrace the act of sex as worship of your partner and a sacred representation of the divine — no matter how different you imagine these things to be. You get out of it what you put into it. Exercise your devotion muscle. Fake it till you make it.
By holding this highest vision for your partner, you will be loving them into their best expression of their divine design. This is truly divine principle in action. Yes, you are a healer now.

4. Create the environment in which sex can blossom.
Engage the senses. Find a soft, beautiful blanket that is only for union with your beloved. Sprinkle rose petals around the space. Light candles and play music. I recommend getting a drone sound from an app for a neutral backdrop that encourages healing and a spiritual vibe.

5. Prepare your body.
Shower or bathe — cleanliness is essential to meet the divine.
Adorn your body with oils, style your hair, wear makeup that makes you feel your best, and even put on jewelry if it makes you feel more spiritually centered. Wear a piece of clothing sacred to this space, this act — a robe, a slip, or something else you feel prepares your body and spirit to meet.

6. When you are both ready, enter into the circle of rose petals.
Join your third eyes together, breathing for six inhales and six exhales.

7. Take turns anointing each other with essential oil of sandalwood and rose.
Place the oil on each other’s crown, third eye, heart space, and genitals.

8. Now, open yourself up to exploring sexual intimacy however you feel moved to do so.
Let every session be unique and distinct unto itself. Practice looking into each other’s eyes. Stay in the feeling of each moment. Drop into the visceral feeling of this experience.

9. When you climax, practice drawing that energy into your heart.
Feel the orgasm release (evolution) and simultaneously draw that bliss into your heart (involution).

Making love in this manner can provide you with immense bliss and a sense of deep freedom. It can surely help pull down depression and wipe it off completely in the long run. 

Myths related to sex

Revealed: The 7 Common Sex Myths that All Should Know

We live in the age where information is easily accessible to all of us. Unfortunately, we are prone to the wrong information as well especially if it deals with SEX. This is one of the topics that many people don’t like to discuss in public and hence, may depend on cheap and out-dated sources, half-knowledged friends, luring websites etc. This may lead them to believe in some myths about sex and then would end up living with the wrong beliefs.

Here are revealed some of the common myths for you:

Myth #1: Pregnancy can be prevented by douching after having sex

Sex myth #1: Douching prevents pregnancy


For those of you who don’t know what douching is; it refers to washing the vagina by using vinegar mixed with water or some other products made for douching in order to make the area fresh and clean. Instead, it may lead to the opposite effect. Vagina consists of both good and bad bacteria but douching can not only kill good bacteria and can also help in breeding the bad bacteria! It can NEVER ever prevent pregnancy. However, it can certainly do one thing – add infection in vagina! So, make sure you don’t even try it.

Myth #2: If you are once cured for STDs, you will never acquire them

sex myth #2: STDs once acquired can't be acquired again


You can be treated for STDs that are acquired by bacteria. But that doesn’t mean that you cannot acquire them again. You have the same possibility to acquire it as any other normal person. So, after you are cured, you should get your partner also checked for it. Rather you should get yourself checked regularly if you have unprotected sex or have it with any new partner.

Myth #3: Condoms take out the fun from sex and are irritating

sex myth #3: condoms take out the fun


It’s exactly the opposite but only if you know what is the right size of a condom for you and how to wear it properly. A study has found that 68% of the men fail to use the right size and shape the of the condom. If used in the correct way, they can make you feel ecstasy!

Myth #4: The only thing a woman wants in the bed is the man who can bring her to orgasm

sex myth #4: women want only man that can make her reach orgasm


No, it’s not the only thing. What they crave more for is that they are more desired by the man. They want to see that the man getting turned on by of her beauty. They want to love more than sex.

Myth #5: Sex is better and more satisfying when you are young

sex myth #5: sex is more satisfying in young age


Although the energy may not remain the same but the satisfaction may actually rise up. The older ones are reported to have one of the most satisfying sex of their lives. This is because mostly at this stage, they lay more emphasis on the emotional, mental and spiritual level rather than quick orgasms! Hence, there is absolutely no need to be jealous of the young ones.

Myth #6: You can’t get pregnant if you have intercourse in water

sex myth #6: you can't get pregnant by having sex in water


There is absolutely no relation between getting pregnant and having sex in water. Water is no one to stop sperms from getting into the vagina and then fusing with the ova to produce a new life. It offers 0% protection against pregnancy.

Myth #7: Men MUST ejaculate to experience sexual pleasure

sex myth #7: men need to ejaculate in order to have sexual pleasure


Ha ha! Ha ha! Sexual pleasure has more to do with the mental state rather than the physical. If it were physical then there would have been different experiences with circumcised and uncircumcised cock! So, sexual drives don’t depend on the physical state rather it is a mental phenomenon. Hence, you can derive pleasure even without ejaculating.

Keep your mind open. Don’t believe in myths and also don’t let others believe in them also.


Sex: The Union of Senses

Sex: The Spiritual Angle of this Sacred Energy

The essence and respect of sex and its spiritual power have long been hidden from people primarily because of the negligence, its mysterious power of attractions and culture and traditions.

Don’t worry, I am going to reveal and share with you one of the disregarded and neglected domains of sex- The Spiritual Angle of Sex!

Sex primarily deals with the union of all senses in higher organisms but the most developed form of it is visible in human beings. Sex can be also be defined as a form of energy that brings to our body, to our mind, to our spirits and to us a feeling of oneness, joy, satisfaction and intimacy. This energy is very powerful. We need to explore its beauty, its power and its strength in rejuvenating our spirits. Neglecting the sex energy deprives the person of freedom, joy and closeness to his/her fellow beings.

The orgasm has been distorted from its original purpose. Your body has forgotten the cosmic orgasm of which it is capable because society has taught you for thousand and thousands of years that SEXUALITY IS BAD. You have been taught this in order for you to be controlled and to keep you from seeking FREEDOM through sexuality. Sexuality connects you with a frequency of ecstasy, which connects you back to your divine source and to information.”Barbara Marciniak

People, especially children, tend to develop false notions related to sex primarily because their parents don’t teach about sex to their children. And what would they even teach to their children when they themselves are not fully educated on this crucial topic because they were also not taught. They simply tell them that it is not a topic to be discussed or this is a dirty thing and what not! This is one of the greatest reasons that contribute to the negligence of the spiritual aspect of sex.

Sex is one form of meditation that provides peace and for some, it’s the only way to meditate. The sexual power is very potent and its proper channelling is essential to enjoy its benefits. It is that less explored energy by the majority of the individuals who focuses their goals only on money, success, fame etc. They fail to realise the importance of this powerful source of energy.

Spiritual Sex
Sex rejuvenates the muscles, nerves and spirits

Some of the beneficial results of this sacred energy and its spiritual aspects are:

1. A hearty and elated spirit is evolved that helps in improving nerves-muscles co-ordination.

2. The feeling of orgasms while having sex makes the two united into one soul. Moreover, it adds to the love and affection for each other.

3. If proper mentality is set while having sex, the individual relates it to united spirits, love and compassion towards his partner. On the other hand, if taken in wrong way, it builds a feeling of guilt, shame and anger in the person. Hence, I would say it once again that the proper channelling of this sacred power of sex ought to be done properly.

4. If a person throws himself or herself in the pool of love altruistically and leaving behind their ego without keeping in mind a certain expectation from their partner, they are bound to enjoy the pleasures and new sensations of this sacred act!

Sex unites the 2 souls
The feeling of ecstasy and love comes from sex


Therefore, sex is the union of souls, the union of bodies, the union of minds and the union of spirits and this union provides the person true essence of life, peace and harmony.

We at Health and Hale firmly believe that sex education is that golden key which would open up the doors to live your life fully. We are gonna take care of that for you. Just stay tuned for more articles!