Words Beyond Sex

Sex in our modern world has so many meanings shoveled onto one word that it’s not exactly a rose, it’s more like a whole flower garden, and the result isn’t necessarily always a beautiful creation.
When the way we think about things creates our reality, how much confusion are we perpetuating in this area by being so unclear about language?

Gary Douglas, best-selling author and founder of Access Consciousness, and Dr. Dain Heer, have a different way of looking at this that could create a lot more clarity. They suggest using six different words to describe different aspects of sex.

These words are sensuality, sex, sexuality, copulation, sexualness, and orgasm.

Sensuality is what bodies like. Most of us don’t get nearly enough of this nurturing touch, perhaps in part because of how much we confuse it with other components of sex, such as copulation.

The necessity of the human need to be touched is demonstrated by the deaths of infants in orphanages who died when given adequate physical care but were deprived of touching and holding.

Sex, as Douglas and Heer describe it, is that energy you emit when you are “looking good, feeling good, and strutting your stuff.” You’re likely to get whistles and flirtatious glances because your energy is inviting others to flow that sexual energy towards you. This can be fun for everyone and does NOT have to lead to copulation either!

Interestingly, this energy of sex can be created without the need for another person present around you. Being dependent on that other person who is around or in relationship with you can actually distort and destroy your relationship by creating an unnatural dependence on that person to supply what could truly come from within you.

Sexuality is a definition, and like all definitions, is a judgment. It defines whom you will and will not receive the flow of sexual energy from. “I am a straight man,” “I am a gay woman,” are examples of this definition. Are you one sex, or are you an infinite being? Couldn’t an infinite being receive sexual energy from everyone? Again, receiving the energy does not mean you have to act on it!

Copulation is the act of putting body parts together, any body parts, in any combination. Have you noticed how much reluctance we have to experience the aspects of sex described above, for fear they would lead to copulation? What if we were clear that copulation was a choice that could be chosen or not chosen at any point? Might that create more clarity and ease in this area?

Sexualness is the creative, caring, healing, and nurturing energy of life itself. Sexualness can occur not only during copulation but whenever any creative caring nurturing activity is entered into. You can be sexual eating a great meal, or a great person! Sexualness is receiving on this planet, and it exists in everything.

Orgasm is the energy that creates the body, nurtures the body, and keeps the body young.

If you’d like a reminder of how nurturing and expansive this energy feels, try taking a few minutes to pull the energy of orgasm through your body from your feet all the way up. Now keep that energy flowing for a while, how does your body feel? This works even if the last orgasm you had was 100 years ago! If you nourished your body with that energy daily, would it have to show those signs of aging that we’ve come to expect are “unavoidable”?

Remember the last conversation you had about sex. What if instead of using the word sex, you began to explore using the words above to accurately describe the energy of what you were really talking about and what you meant? Would the conversations on this area be clearer? What if you were to use these words every time you thought about or discussed the subject?
Might your sexual garden get a little less weedy? We’re definitely willing to try and find out!

This article was originally published on access-consciousness-blog.com 


6 Ways: How to Insanly Boost Your Sex Life

Do you arrive home tired, stressed out and not in a mood for sex? Then you certainly need a booster to level up your sex life. We are going to look at 6 ways to improve your experience in bed:


Be honest (Seriously)

Boost Your Sex Life: Be honest

If you are trying to fake an orgasm to please your partner, then we recommend you to JUST STOP DOING IT! It may have worse effects than you can ever think of. Your partner will feel disappointed and your relationships may take a new turn once he/she finds out that you were faking. This would cause tensions and mind you, he/she may stop believing you.


Try different positions

Boost Your Sex Life: Try Different Positions

Boredom is the worst enemy of bedtime pleasures. If you find yourself in a position where the moves of your partner become predictable then it’s time to try something new. You need to add new interests in your sex life. You should try changing positions ranging from doggy style, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl to the sultry saddle, the squat, standing up, and speed bump. Try to find new spots of touch and find out the most sensitive ones for arousal. This would surely help you.


Be passionate

Boost Your Sex Life: Be Passionate

You get in return what to give. We would like to suggest that you should at least go for kissing and cuddling even when you are tired or in stress because if you push yourself a little, chances are that you would end up getting more passionate than a while ago. You may even end up going for thrusting into each other!


Talk to your partner

Boost Your Sex Life: Talk to Your Partner

This is one of the most important ones. You should always be open to your partner and should be able to express yourself in front of him/her. You should never hide your feeling and should discuss how you like to be touched or where to be touched for more arousal. If you have complains to your partner, then you ought to share it.


Be playful and creative

Boost Your Sex Life: Be playful and Creative

Tease your partner, enjoy with them, have fun. Mind you: Have fun but never make fun of them. Try out new things. You may try having sex at different odd and exciting places, wear different sexy clothes, arouse different organs before sex etc. The human brain is very creative, you just need to stimulate a bit. It would provide you with way more ideas as a limit of imagination lies only inside your mind. So, never feel low. Focus on finding solutions rather than repenting on a problem.


Eat Healthy and Exercise

Boost Your Sex Life: Exercises and Healthy Diet

Most importantly, you must focus on eating good food and avoiding alcohol, smoking and junk foods. You must exercise in order to maintain the level of fitness, activeness and agility. Else, you may feel weak, lazy for sex and we think, this is not that you want!


Therefore, there are a hell lot of things that you can employ to boost your sex life and we have just touched the tip of an iceberg. The important thing is to take the decision and not just read these. Your actions will depend on how badly you want it!


Myths related to sex

Revealed: The 7 Common Sex Myths that All Should Know

We live in the age where information is easily accessible to all of us. Unfortunately, we are prone to the wrong information as well especially if it deals with SEX. This is one of the topics that many people don’t like to discuss in public and hence, may depend on cheap and out-dated sources, half-knowledged friends, luring websites etc. This may lead them to believe in some myths about sex and then would end up living with the wrong beliefs.

Here are revealed some of the common myths for you:

Myth #1: Pregnancy can be prevented by douching after having sex

Sex myth #1: Douching prevents pregnancy


For those of you who don’t know what douching is; it refers to washing the vagina by using vinegar mixed with water or some other products made for douching in order to make the area fresh and clean. Instead, it may lead to the opposite effect. Vagina consists of both good and bad bacteria but douching can not only kill good bacteria and can also help in breeding the bad bacteria! It can NEVER ever prevent pregnancy. However, it can certainly do one thing – add infection in vagina! So, make sure you don’t even try it.

Myth #2: If you are once cured for STDs, you will never acquire them

sex myth #2: STDs once acquired can't be acquired again


You can be treated for STDs that are acquired by bacteria. But that doesn’t mean that you cannot acquire them again. You have the same possibility to acquire it as any other normal person. So, after you are cured, you should get your partner also checked for it. Rather you should get yourself checked regularly if you have unprotected sex or have it with any new partner.

Myth #3: Condoms take out the fun from sex and are irritating

sex myth #3: condoms take out the fun


It’s exactly the opposite but only if you know what is the right size of a condom for you and how to wear it properly. A study has found that 68% of the men fail to use the right size and shape the of the condom. If used in the correct way, they can make you feel ecstasy!

Myth #4: The only thing a woman wants in the bed is the man who can bring her to orgasm

sex myth #4: women want only man that can make her reach orgasm


No, it’s not the only thing. What they crave more for is that they are more desired by the man. They want to see that the man getting turned on by of her beauty. They want to love more than sex.

Myth #5: Sex is better and more satisfying when you are young

sex myth #5: sex is more satisfying in young age


Although the energy may not remain the same but the satisfaction may actually rise up. The older ones are reported to have one of the most satisfying sex of their lives. This is because mostly at this stage, they lay more emphasis on the emotional, mental and spiritual level rather than quick orgasms! Hence, there is absolutely no need to be jealous of the young ones.

Myth #6: You can’t get pregnant if you have intercourse in water

sex myth #6: you can't get pregnant by having sex in water


There is absolutely no relation between getting pregnant and having sex in water. Water is no one to stop sperms from getting into the vagina and then fusing with the ova to produce a new life. It offers 0% protection against pregnancy.

Myth #7: Men MUST ejaculate to experience sexual pleasure

sex myth #7: men need to ejaculate in order to have sexual pleasure


Ha ha! Ha ha! Sexual pleasure has more to do with the mental state rather than the physical. If it were physical then there would have been different experiences with circumcised and uncircumcised cock! So, sexual drives don’t depend on the physical state rather it is a mental phenomenon. Hence, you can derive pleasure even without ejaculating.

Keep your mind open. Don’t believe in myths and also don’t let others believe in them also.